tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post341312469770961486..comments2023-10-31T10:28:50.158-04:00Comments on The Zeray Gazette: Settling for Mr./Miss Good EnoughJohnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04854543617806427302noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post-37985041654322152862008-02-11T12:58:00.000-05:002008-02-11T12:58:00.000-05:00I remember a movie with Jack Nicholson in it. At s...I remember a movie with Jack Nicholson in it. At some point, he gets thrown out of his psychologist's office into the waiting room and he's hurt, angry, bitter, and just not coping. So he turns to the other people waiting in the row of chairs for their turn and asks them all, "What if this is as good as it gets?"<BR/><BR/>It seems to be the pervading attitude of that article.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post-15949334159274815062008-02-10T16:15:00.000-05:002008-02-10T16:15:00.000-05:00Maybe (J) and I are just lucky. We married for pu...Maybe (J) and I are just lucky. We married for pure, burning love, but have survived lots of turmoil and stress because we both had the long haul in mind. Having read that article I see such a nieve point of view. Even if all of the stars do align in perfect harmony at one point in time, the whole universe is in motion. They will soon enough move out of alignment. To expect eternal perfection is only to guarantee onself eternal heartache. <BR/><BR/>I think that our parents and grandparents had a much better view. Love was nice, but practicality was more importent. If a man was honest, hard working, reliable (e.g. didn't drink up the paycheck), and kind he was a keeper. If you wanted to talk, well, that's what the lady's book club or sewing circle was for. Also, when you are in it for the long haul love tends to grow over time. Not the type of love which produces irregular heartbeats, but the type which is like the warm embers of a fire.<BR/><BR/>When we first married, (J) told me that what women in their 30's look for was different than what women in their teens and 20's find attractive. This seems to be the point of the article. Will younger women listen, in this day and age especially?DannyGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07812871997489855603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post-50926175717033662112008-02-10T11:30:00.000-05:002008-02-10T11:30:00.000-05:00As Bill Hybels once said, marriage is one sinner m...As Bill Hybels once said, marriage is one sinner marrying another. And if you have kids, then you have little "sinnerlings" in the house.<BR/><BR/>"Unless you meet the man of your dreams (who, by the way, doesn’t exist, precisely because you dreamed him up)," Ms. Gottlieb writes, "there’s going to be a downside to getting married..." Good for you, Lori! You've just taken a bite out of the reality sandwich.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01366561083039153079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post-45919332708168519252008-02-10T10:40:00.000-05:002008-02-10T10:40:00.000-05:00The article immediately reminded me of an ex-girlf...The article immediately reminded me of an ex-girlfriend.<BR/><BR/><I>What fantasy world would ever lead a person to conclude she cannot marry because the other person does not fit perfectly in her life and values.</I><BR/><BR/>It's a staple principle of pop culture: Sex & The City, Ally McBeal, Friends, etc. all strongly push this understanding of love and marriage.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04854543617806427302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10760709.post-83954717392042381102008-02-10T10:06:00.000-05:002008-02-10T10:06:00.000-05:00Wow. That article is a tour inside the mindset of ...Wow. That article is a tour inside the mindset of a culture I have never known.<BR/><BR/>I guess I'm just a hick from Indiana.<BR/><BR/>My wife and I both knew we were getting less than perfect spouses when we married. That happens when you marry a human being.<BR/><BR/>What fantasy world would ever lead a person to conclude she cannot marry because the other person does not fit perfectly in her life and values.<BR/><BR/>I say again, wow. I have to make sure I talk with my daughter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com