David Bernstein wrote about a curious wedding announcement in The New York Times. An older couple gets together decades after a teenage romance:
Very nice. But if I follow the story correctly, the groom hooked up with the bride well before he was separated from his wife of about thirty years, and apparently well before he made it clear to her that he was pursuing other relationships. The Times's story contains this choice line: "He suggested to Dr. Drager that they meet in Las Vegas the next year and go on a group river-rafting trip through the Grand Canyon. He told his wife about the trip but not about his companion." I understand these things happen, I haven't walked a mile in their shoes, I'm not being judgmental, I certainly wouldn't want my private life to be judged by others, and so forth. But what interests me is how social mores have changed. When did such things become not only not at least somewhat embarrassing, but something a prominent doctor (the bride) would willingly (eagerly?) share with friends, family, and millions of strangers? And isn't this the sort of things that newspapers would have refused to publish in their wedding pages not too long ago?
And how did the presiding pastor at the wedding feel about couple's infidelity?
Rabbi Jacqueline Mates-Muchin, who married the couple, spoke to them about love “kept in the recesses of your hearts.” As the ceremony was ending and the procession was leaving the room, the bride turned to her friends and family and gave two thumbs up and silently mouthed the word, “Yes!”
I'm not a pastor yet, but if an adulterous couple came to me seeking a wedding, I'd refuse.
Hat tip: Glenn Reynolds